CHIC Readers

 

 

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My very CHIC readers in Seattle

 

So you know I wrote a book, right? It was launched in National Book Store by Summit Books last September 2016. CHIC: Tips on Life, Style, and Work has been on the NBS Best Seller list since its launch. Thank you to all my readers. Especially to those who bought them in bulk to give as Christmas gifts.

 

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A reader in Seattle, Amie, contacted me via Facebook. She wanted to order 10 books to give to her girl friends.

 

CHIC is only sold in National Book Store – in stores and online. I wanted delivery to be easier for Amie, so I bought the books for her in NBS Greenbelt, and her niece picked it up from me. First, I signed and dedicated each book for them. Her niece then brought the books to the US.

My book was Amie’s gift to her girl buddies to commemorate their 10th year of friendship. I thought it was the sweetest gesture, not only because it’s my book, but because these amazing women take time to see each other regularly. And look how elegant and chic they are.

 

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The package was well received. Amie sent me this photo. Since I love receiving hand-written notes, I also love sending them.

 

Dearest Amie, Zyd, Tonette, Tisha, Apple, Jean, Jennifer, Pam, and Raquel – thank you for being an inspiration. You all embody the idea of CHIC not only in the way you look, but more importantly in your faith and friendship. Stay CHIC!

P.S. To all my CHIC readers, please post photos in IG, Twitter or FB and use the hashtag #CHICbyDaphne. I’d love to repost your insights from the book.

Facebook Safety: What every parent should know

 

 

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This photo appears in my book CHIC: Tips on Life, Style, and Work. Photo by Jeanne Young.

 

It all happens so fast. One year we’re all about twirling in tutu skirts and fairy wings, next thing I know, Sophia goes to camp in France, Lily is navigating through emotions with friends, and Stella is having big conversations with even bigger words. My girls have grown. And unlike what our parents went through when they were slowly releasing us into the real world, we have to deal with both the real world and the online world.

My kids are not gadget-savvy. If my husband had his way, they would be. But I chose to keep them off social media and to limit their gadget time. As a result — and I can take credit for this — they are creative and outdoorsy kids. Ok, the outdoorsy part is my husband’s. He takes them biking, hiking and such.

Some of Sophia’s classmates were on Facebook as early as first grade. Soph never felt left out. She was busy playing in the park with her BFF neighbour. When her classmates came up with a FB group for school-related announcements in Grade 7, that was the only time we gave her a Facebook account. She was 13. The “legal” age for minors to be on the social media site. Til this day, Soph can’t really manage to navigate through FB. All she knows is that there are some cute puppy and kitten videos on it.

My kids have a little community on Facebook called The Strawbunny. This is to share their art and creative expressions. It is managed by Patrick and me. Occasionally we do post photos of our children. They were born into this already – each birth announcement was featured in a magazine or in my show. However, we keep their presence online under control. And they are ok with it.

I feel strongly about the safety of minors on the internet that I wrote a section on it in my book. The threats are real, folks. UNICEF recently came out with a baseline study on violence against children in the Philippines. While there are predators online who are waiting to pounce on children, there are also friends and acquaintances who sometimes overstep boundaries and create a very stressful environment for your kid –  yes, bullying. So parents, please be aware of your children’s digital tracks. You have to know about all their activities online.

 

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In mid-November, I was invited by Facebook to join a workshop on safety. This was attended by a few journalists. They released some valuable information that can help all of us manoeuvre through Facebook with safety. The biggest concerns in our forum then was the proliferation of fake sites and hate-mongering. Facebook has now improved its mechanism to identify these unwanted activities. In “Report Post” there is now a slug for “it’s a false news story.”

 

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After the workshop, I had a brief discussion with the officers from Facebook head quarters. I asked them more about the need for keeping kids safe on Facebook and all social media sites. There are way too many minors below 13 on social media. As it turns out, every day, parents in the Philippines come to Facebook to ask for advice in Groups, share pictures of their kids or just stay connected with family in different places. And for many parents, they also have questions about how Facebook works once their kids join.

 

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Facebook tools for journalists.

 

Facebook just launched the Parent’s Portal, a new section of the Facebook Safety Center. It will include guides for parents about how Facebook works, tips for talking with kids about staying safe online and resources from experts around the world.

Here are six tips to help parents kick off a digital discussion so that both parents and their children get the most out of their Facebook experience:

Let your child know that the same rules apply online as apply offline.
If it’s not something you want others to do to you, don’t do it to others. Just as you might tell your child to look both ways before crossing the street or to wear a helmet while riding their bike, teach them to think before they share online.

Try to be a good role model.
The adage that children will “do as you do, not as you say” is as true online as it is offline. If you set time restrictions on when your child can use social media or be online (ex: no texting after 10:00 PM), follow the same rules.

Engage early.
Data suggest that parents should engage online with their children as soon as they are on social media. Consider friending them when they join Facebook. Just as you lay the foundation early for dialogue and conversation offline with your children, you should lay that foundation early online. It gets harder to do so if you wait. Even before they are on social media, talk to them about technology as a whole. It can help lay the groundwork for future conversations.

Identify and seize key moments.
For example, when your child gets their first mobile phone, it’s a good time to set ground rules. When your child turns 13 years old and is old enough to join Facebook and other social media, it’s a good time to talk about safe sharing. When your child gets a driver’s license, it’s a good time to discuss the importance of not texting and driving.

Trust yourself.
Typically, you can adopt the same parenting style for your child’s online activities as you do for their offline activities. If you find that your child responds best to a negotiated agreement, create a contract that you can both sign. Or, maybe your child just needs to know the basic rules.

Ask your children to teach you.
Not on Facebook? Or, maybe you’re interested in trying a streaming music service? If your children are already familiar with these apps and sites, they can be an excellent resource. The conversation can also serve as an opportunity to talk about issues of safety, privacy and security. For example, you can ask them questions about privacy settings as you set up your own Facebook account. And, as most parents know all too well, your child will likely appreciate the opportunity to teach you.

 

My guiding principle is this — I don’t allow my girls to go out unsupervised in public areas. The internet is one big public area. So while they are minors, they are completely under my care. They are not to run around the internet without my knowledge and presence. All phones are turned over to our family charging-dock every night at an agreed time. Their school and places of activities cannot be published. Photos are not geo-tagged. Etc…

There are many other little rules we have. Some of them are in my book. I’d be curious to know what your policies are in your family.

 

 

Peninsula SnowPages

 

 

The Peninsula Manila SnowPage sports a vibrantly colorful indigenous tribal pattern in red, blue and yellow and the sun motif adapted from the iconic “Sunburst” sculpture in The Lobby

 

Every year, The Peninsula Hotels does a fundraising campaign at Christmas time. They’ve already raised USD 1.5 million since 2003. This year, the holiday fundraiser is done in partnership with luxury toy-art collective, Papinee. The Peninsula’s iconic holiday mascot SnowPage gets a makeover by Papinee. There are 10 different limited edition SnowPages, each inspired by the culture and and traditions of each of The Peninsula Hotel worldwide.

There are only 300 SnowPages in each Peninsula Hotel. The price of the limited edition SnowPage is P4,000.

 

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Hand-made with luxurious fabrics and detailed embroidery, the limited-edition SnowPage also include the chance to win the experience of a lifetime with surprise seasonal gifts. Hidden inside a large number of the boxes are “Golden Tickets” for bespoke Peninsula adventures specially designed to create lasting memories for all the family.

 

Lucky guests have the chance to win the grand prize of a two-night stay for four in a Premier Suite, a fun dinner for four at Spices, daily breakfast plus exciting Peninsula Academy family experiences including learning how to prepare a halo-halo (traditional Filipino iced dessert). Other prizes feature delectable dinners for four, or the celebrated Peninsula Afternoon Tea sets.

 

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The Creative Director & Founder of PAPINEE, Mr Dev Suj, was in Manila yesterday and introduced us to his brand. PAPINEE installations and art directives have also led to monumental creative projects during Art Basel, with the Financial Times, at amFAR during the Cannes Film Festival, with Louis Vuitton, at Monocle, at the Sultan Gallery Kuwait, at Shanghai Fashion Week, with ICC Elements, Xintiandi and many more.

 

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The Peninsula Manila SnowPage sports a vibrantly colorful indigenous tribal pattern in red, blue and yellow and the sun motif adapted from the iconic “Sunburst” sculpture in The Lobby.

 

Papinee has specially designed 10 limited edition SnowPages, each inspired by the culture and traditions of each of the The Peninsula Hotel worldwide
PAPINEE has specially designed 10 limited edition SnowPages, each inspired by the culture and traditions of each of The Peninsula Hotel properties worldwide.  There are just 300 SnowPages created for each city. A percentage of proceeds from each SnowPage will be donated to the Make-A-Wish Foundation®.

 

Limited edition SnowPage plush toy by Papinee, P4,000 nett
Selected gift boxes contain “Golden Tickets” and the chance to win glamorous prizes for the family to enjoy.

 

 

Justin Trudeau

 

 

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Canada’s Prime Minister Justin Trudeau wearing a Philippine barong during the Asia-Pacific Economic Cooperation (APEC) leaders’ meeting in Manila on November 18, 2015. Photo by Edgar Su, Reuters.

 

It has been a week of contradictions. We were dealing with the shock and horror of the terror attacks in France, Mali, Beirut and other places. There has been heightened security alerts in Metro Manila due to APEC. But on a micro level, we were having a very relaxing time at home with the kids for nine days! It was the most perfect staycation. We are very lucky to be in a relatively peaceful society.

In between worrying about and sympathizing over the world’s troubles, Filipinos had some fun with the leaders of the APEC member nations. I wanted to wait until all the craziness over the #APEChotties went away before posting this. In case you still don’t know what APEC hotties are all about, watch this Jeanne Moos report.

My Facebook feed was filled with photos of Justin Trudeau. It got to a very uncomfortable level, because he is, after all, the leader of a country which happens to be mine. But I suppose Filipino fans are really the best. One week it’s Aldub, the next week it’s Justin Trudeau.

I stumbled upon this video after not having seen it since it aired live on TV back in 2000. This is Justin Trudeau giving the eulogy for his dad, Canada’s Prime Minister Pierre Elliot Trudeau. I am a product of Pierre Trudeau’s Canada. He was the PM when we first arrived. I was witness to how well-loved he was.

 

 

 

Hereditary cancer screening

 

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Every October, the world comes together to celebrate Breast Cancer Awareness Month. We get surrounded by a sea of pink – beauty products, clothing, food, and even buildings that get lit up. There have been  advancement in medical research for breast cancer. And the message has always been clear – that early detection can save lives. And yet every year, someone I know gets breast cancer. And from December of last year, I had seven friends who died of cancer (two were male, and of the five females, four had breast cancer). Maybe it’s our age. Maybe I just know too many people.

When I was growing up, no one I knew had cancer. No one in my family had it. None of my parents’ friends had it — until I was a teenager in Toronto, and my mom’s close friend got it and fought it. Just yesterday, I found out two people I know have cancer – breast and esophagus. This is in addition to my long list of survivor friends.

I know way too many people with cancer. And despite how dreadful it is, knowing them gives me hope and strength. And walking them through their treatments has brought me closer to God and made me more aware of my own mortality. My friends who have had cancer are among the kindest and most giving people I know. Maybe its living with gratitude every day that makes them feel the grace of God. From them I learned that cancer isn’t always a death sentence — that early detection saves lives.

I looked through my files and found a lot of pink ribbon campaigns and breast cancer awareness events from the past. My best friend from childhood, Mel Lerma, is the country manager of Estee Lauder. And they are the leading organization in fund raising for breast cancer research. So I naturally supported Mel from Day 1. I also was given the gift of getting to know I Can Serve‘s Kara Magsanoc-Alipala really well. Kara is truly a blessing to so many. She is like a sister – so full of love and clarity. I Can Serve helps a lot of women via high impact information campaigns and community-based screening programs. Then there are prayer warriors outside the pink ribbon campaigns – my brother in law, my spiritual community at my kids’ school, and strangers I see when I sit in random chapels. People fight cancer with information, research, surgery, medicine, and faith.

Here are some photos from previous pink ribbon campaigns and events —

 

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With Mel in 2012, when Estee Lauder lit up the Ayala Museum in pink.

 

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Supporting my friend’s advocacy with Rustan’s Anton Huang, Estee Lauder’s Mel Lerma, and Rovilson Fernandez back in 2012.

 

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Another Estee Lauder event with Rhoda Aldanese of Rustans, Arnold Vegafrea and breast cancer survivor Maritoni Fernandez in 2008.

 

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With Mel at Estee Lauder pink ribbon event in Peninsula Manila in 2014.

 

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Just last month at the recent I Can Serve fundraiser with co-founder and breast cancer survivor Kara Magsanoc-Alikpala.

 

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Me and Kara last July 2015 at St Luke’s Global City, where I moderated discussions on radiation therapy.

 

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My super friend and awesome breast cancer survivor Alya Honasan of Philippine Daily Inquirer and St Luke’s radiation doctor.

 

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Last 2014, I hosted a portion of I Can Serve’s annual party with Kara.

 

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I volunteered to man the I Can Serve booth in Rockwell in 2014. I do not hold an official title with I Can Serve. I just volunteer my services.

 

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With breast cancer survivor volunteers and I Can Serve’s co-founder Crissan Celdran (on far right). Crissan is a survivor of Stage 3 breast cancer from fifteen years ago. These are the bravest, kindest, and most generous women I know. They provide a community of support.

 

Recently I learned more about hereditary cancer while hosting an event for Philippine Medical Oncologists presented by Hi-Precision Diagnostics. Hi-Precision Diagnostics is a medical diagnostic clinic that exclusively carries the the Myriad myRisk™ test in the Philippines. About 10% of people afflicted with breast cancer acquired it because of genetics/hereditary.

The Myriad myRisk™ test is the same one that Angelina Jolie took which determined she was carrying a faulty gene known as the BRCA1. This meant she had an 87 percent risk of breast cancer and a 50 percent risk of ovarian cancer. This led to her decision to have a preventive double mastectomy and have her ovaries and fallopian tubes removed. There are many arguments for and against Angelina’s drastic move. You may read Angelina’s journal, “My Medical Choice”.

Though the Myriad myRisk™ Hereditary Cancer Test is a giant leap in detecting potential cancers, it is not a test that’s necessary for everybody. Only those who are at high risk, with family history of cancer, should consider doing this test under the care of an oncologist.

The process is quick and virtually painless. By utilizing blood and saliva samples for their advanced laboratory analysis, as well as a scientifically-proven Hereditary Cancer Quiz, Myriad myRisk™ calculates both physiological and historical risks of cancer leading to a more well-rounded diagnosis. Through this, Myriad myRisk™ provides clear direction for patients for treatment or prevention, through specific medical management recommendations.

 

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I moderated the discussion about Hereditary Cancer Risk Assessment at a recent convention for Philippine oncologists.

 

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Here are some of the tests offered by Hi-Precision — Myriad myRisk™, one of Myriad’s most effective cancer-detection diagnosis, utilizes a 25-gene panel that efficiently and expediently identifies the elevated risks of eight types of cancers, among them breast, ovarian, gastric, colorectal, pancreatic, melanoma, prostate, and endometrial. Providing clear insights into cancer risks among patients by blending genetic testing status with hereditary cancer history, Myriad myRisk™ assesses the possibilities of cancer occurrences in an individual, leading to clinically actionable diagnoses.

 

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A few days ago, I visited Hi-Precision Diagnostics’ head office where their laboratory is located. Here with Hi-Precision’s Melissa Ongsue-Lee and Vanessa Ongsue.

 

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Vanessa showed me around the very impressive diagnostic labs. All analysis and lab work for Myriad tests are flown abroad. Only the sample extraction is done locally.

 

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With Dr Mariano Atacador, Melissa Ongsue-Lee, Lionell Lee, Myriad’s Andrea Tesoriero, Vanessa Ongsue, Carewell’s Robert Suntay.

 

For more info on Myriad genetic cancer screening tests —

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